Love, begins to be a good listener

Mother call me, talk to her recently life, talk about her.

This is the first time this year, she open your heart to me. Through the phone, listening to her talk, I feel bit by bit by sunny or cloudy, again by over soon.

May be the education of her grandpa lack "every person only three words" this lesson, the habits of mother always is not very good, she likes to chat with people, not just three words, but their very all take to the person. Less than five hundred meters away from the store to the house, she tends to go for an hour, even if not meet acquaintances, with her disposition "run into a stone can talk big". Since the childhood, I can't stand the most is her to this point.

She is better, like comparison. Family conditions than with other people, to children's study than to people, will also be with a man than a husband's attitude, completely can't stand others better than her. Have so of psychological, even when she and her father's career peak, we each family member's privacy in her opinion which is brought to the talk of elegant. Because all goes well, so can't see the coming storm. She never thought she would one day be people mercy, and one day, she will need to be protected, more can not as a mother figure, as a wife, she needs to pay the necessary efforts to defend his family.

I have been in the reflection point, in order to meet their own vanity, people often ignore the moral bottom line.

It seems to a stranger, my mother is a very strong woman, work and spell able, never bow. But in my eyes she is the spirit of the world is very fragile, it is fragile.

Business, of the rebel of the family crisis, my brother and I... These factors combined became mother's midlife crisis, even a ring, a ring eventually evolved into BaGuaZhen of her life, her pulling ecstasy.

If mother can change a kind of attitude to us, in a kind of attitude to life, everything will be different?

Business setback, can start again, she should stimulate the father's will to fight, rather than in his most need to encourage and support the everywhere down; If can be more sincere to treat their own feelings, the more directly in the face of their own destiny, there is a good life together, don't want to have a good life, also not torture each other; As to treat children, in fact as long as adhere to a bottom line has enough SunFu - his own son.

Mother buddhist. With a lot of people in the bottom to the misreading of Buddhism, as well as she did not understand what purposes and doctrine of religion, but only by osmosis, hearsay come from some of the god of the understanding of the story is simple - burn incense and worship to worshipping Buddha, XinCheng is spirit. Worshipping Buddha is to calculate the Buddha bless and pray messuage peace, everything, prosperity and peace. For her, the so-called religion, which is the problem of "worship which bodhisattva is efficacy". Smooth, she felt all ancestors visions, bodhisattva. Not smooth, she chose the more pious look forward to the "heaven and earth to visions" again. When mother talk to bodhisattva, her touch kind like very waiting for comfort, and I realize it is also through such moments in her heart of lonely and hopeless.

Because of unwilling, she chose the endless complaining and rely on. Complain about people, rely on god.

Finally, she turned himself completely into a radio stations, people just say what had happened to her. Life subtle deficiencies were she put Fried in a pan, is always difficult to make her the right we come into the shadow of her. With spittle fly off, the shadow is more and more big, more and more heavy, slowly climbed to the top of her back to her. At the same time, in her under high pressure, my father and we learned to use thick like intermediary of packing to protect themselves, to cover your ears to the normal breathing. We've learned to selective hearing loss, in the face of external gossip can do noodles don't change color, stride.

I have been wondering why mother likes to her own life without reservation to share with others, don't live to others look far more important than yourself to live comfortable? Yes, I always can't understand, more can't eliminate.

In the mother's point of view, I have been rebellious.

Over the years, I like my mother to turn I have the same outlook on life and values, is desperate to reverse mother of youngsters.

So, my mother is always the enemy, mother is my heart forever of pain. She is so want to change me, and I too look forward to her. The confrontation between the mother and daughter became normal in life, gradually, both lost the desire of the dialogue with each other and courage.

XiangLinSao if not to repeat their tragic encounter can't continue to the second day of the lives, because were not understand loneliness than tragedy itself more torture her heart - now I understand my mother also is such. Through dialogue with others to seek comfort, this is the way she cope with her situation. She has always been a strong in the family, she is used to us the requirement and criticism. But in one's heart, she is still a weak woman, need to be warm, be care, to be understood, be care, she like the vanities of the dependence on the audience - even if the harvest is just sympathy.

Yes, I am criticized mother don't want to understand us at the same time, never have profound understanding of my mother.

For her, I have never been a good listener.

Telephone there, my mother began to complain about. I quietly listen, tell yourself: don't ask your mother to do a percentage, don't ask her every word touched your heart, listen, every word is all from her heart!

The love between family, should not contain wrong. Blood coagulates to love, is tolerance, is no.

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